Mm. Be grateful for the things *you have*: freedom, life, the ability to give love to any and all. Who you are is perfect, whole, and complete. I’ve been there, keep going, it’ll get better if you keep going. Life is a rollercoaster. You go up and down. Check out Daylio, I’ve found it really helpful to look back over the past year years of my rollercoaster. All the best.
It’s very tough when you have to try and force yourself to do something even though you dont want to. I understand that but there’s a saying that the world is only for the courageous and I agree with it. This world is tough and it’s harsh but at the end of the day, you have to say enough is enough and get out there and make something of yourself. You are worth more then you know and you have so much to offer the world. Let your light shine dear. Dare to live, be strong and courageous and do not be afraid. I am a Christian and it’s words like these from the Bible that give me life. Start with reading motivational verses. I started small with little things like saying "I am grateful to be alive" first thing when I wake up. And after a couple of days you will mean it because the truth is your brain only does what u tell it to. So if you say to yourself that your are happy and kind, you will be. It may take a while but if u still to it you’ll come through the other side a better version of yourself. Repeating positive affirmations from the Bible throughout my day has helped me immensely. I hope it does the same for you
i got suspended from work last year, and i’m still depressed and feel the need to revenge, i’m trying my best to get over it .. but still can’t even I’m having a job now
I think I could have written this myself about a year ago. I talked to a therapist and she helped me understand that my brain was essentially lying to me. It was telling me awful things. It took me a while to wrap my head around that idea - for instance I know 2+2=4 so why wouldn’t my brain tell me other true things. I started medication and made adjustments and the critic STOPPED - it was incredible. Try to push yourself to do one thing more than you are comfortable with to break down the barriers and build self worth back up. Life is super crappy a lot, but focus on what your five senses are showing you to refocus when the critic starts talking. what things see, smell taste hear and feel can you be grateful for. I hope you can see a doctor and share your concerns. It’s scary broach the subject and full of stressz I have done online counseling due to anxiety and it helped. Please remember that there is a lot of support and you have goodness to bring the world.
Start with baby steps Tell yourself in the exact moment you are safe, you are breathing, everything in that exact moment is good. Writing down your thoughts help Finding something to be grateful for - root over your head, clean water, food in your fridge, grateful you woke up this morning. Listening to a positive pod cast or reading a good book. I’d recommend the 5 am club .
The most helpful thing that helps me get through those tough moments you described is keeping in mind that I have a fabulous support system. I see a therapist weekly, I call my family and text my friends routinely, and I’m learning how to reach out to loved ones when life gets tough. Having a routine is also beneficial for me, especially one rooted in compassion and gratitude. I’ve started journaling every day on what I’m most grateful for, and I integrate loving kindness into my contemplation practice! These are scientifically proven to re-wire your brain, and the self discipline acquired when doing this every day has strengthened my resolve. Good luck!
You can allow the feeling to be there without calling it good or bad. I notice for me what helps is finding something that I like about someone else and telling that person, and finding three things that I liked today and typing them in the grateful exercise of the fabulous act. Another thing I notice help me is going on Keto where there is no sugar spike.
Just starting where you are at is a step towards getting better. Be grateful that you can see this and that you want to change it! What helps me when I feel low is to connect with friends and share myself. Just by doing that it kinda lifts the veil and the fog starts dissipating. Trust that you can do it... You’ve come so far, through your life highs and lows... And you will get through this as well. You can do it!
I’ll be honest, it’s very hard situation you are in right now, I know as I was there just three months before now. Unfortunately, there is no one solution that would work for everyone as we are all different persons with different backgrounds and lifes. But I only can promise you that you have to keep trying, every day little bit by little bit and praise yourself for it. Write down any tiny accomplishment you managed to make through the day, it could be anything (got out of bed, prepared yourself healthy breakfast, washed dishes). Start small and never blame yourself for anything you couldn’t accomplish, you are in a very bad place right now, be patient with yourself as if you are injured and need to recover. The great help for me was changing from regular antidepressants to some that allow myself to sleep. I’ve never realised how bad my sleep was before that, Talk to your doctor, search for a solution together. Don’t isolate yourself, go out even for a tiny bit, even if you don’t want to, and when you are out there, try focus on anything that is not how uncomfortable you are feeling being out, but on anything, sounds, smells, colours, voices. Write it down, or take a photo, or draw it. It will change your focus outwards and allow to experience something that is outside of your head for a change. It will be scary, but it is worth it. I promise. Wish you all the luck, the light is really there, just keep walking, this stupid tunnel is just too long, but you will make it!
You can only feel good if you celebrate the small things Each moment passed is a celebration each event you’ve got through a positive Celebrate each in your own way and hold on to these moments to keep you going.
Answers reflect the personal experiences of Fabulous community members. They are not medical or professional advice — for guidance about your health, talk to a qualified professional.
