See the gorilla experiment with the basketball.
Secondly you have acceptance, which is different from gratitude. In a bad situation acceptance is really referring to not attempting to remove painful thoughts. So instead of removing painful thoughts with thoughts of gratitude, you are accepting of the painful thoughts and converting your emotional response into resilience, fortitude, growth, and ultimately to live a life which is aligned with your life meaning or your core values.
You might also in some instances be grateful for the opportunity for growth or the lessons learnt but this is definitely not to be confused with accepting painful emotions, and expanding your ability to contain them an act effectively in the world.
Hope this answers your question.
- Are you noticing any change in how you see the world around you by expressing gratitude each day?
- How many things is ok to write down about being grateful?
- Is it better to drink warm or cold water in the morning?
- Do you usually find that you are grateful for small, every day things or something more significant?
- When do you prefer to practise gratitude?
- How long do you usually reflect for? And do you find it helpful to write a list ?
- What is good news/moment you received in your life recently?
- Do you have a time for how long you want to express gratitude? E.g. mediate or pray for a certain amount of time or just say it out loud for a moment
- Does doing a gratitude checkin redirect your thinking and set you up for a good day?
- What did you notice you were least often gratefule for?