When I procrastinate I look at it and think, “Is there a reason I don’t want todo this?” My reason usually turns to be some form of the “thing” I’m avoiding causes me anxiety. Therefore, I avoid thing. Less anxiety!
But that doesn’t get me where I want to be. That isn’t the person I want to be.
Sometimes I incentivize doing the thing (if I make this call, then I can take a nap). I put the hard thing first so it’s over soon. And I explore options for changing it so it doesn’t cause me anxiety.
Could I send an email instead?
When I was avoiding exercise and being sedentary there were two general causes. One: exercising, even gently, hurt. Two: I was depressed and the effort was just too hard.
The only way I got out of this wa snotto make myself exercise. Why would I want to do something that ways painful not in the waking up muscles pain way, but in the something is seriously wrong with my feet way.
Other people just kept pushing me to get up and move. It didn’t work. No amount of knowledge on how improved my life would be if I exercised helped. I knew that. I just wasn’t willing to be in that kind of pain.
I had to learn to trust myself and say something else is needed. Bug off people. It’s not time for that.
I had to change doctors to get one who would work with me. I trust my gut and tried some alternate medicine options (an herbalist for example). In doing that I tried giving up all dairy completely.
In less than a month I could walk with no pain. I enjoy going for walks now. I miss them.
Same with eating good food. I knew what was healthy. But if I took time to make that happen I had no way to do what else I loved. I had to find what works for me. I’m eating healthy for the first time in years. Because I’m doing it how it works for me.
As to depression, it’s been a problem since I was 12. I just keep working at it. Going to therapy. Being vulnerable. Thinking in new ways. Giving up family “training” that didn’t work.
For me procrastination is me just being lazy. It means there's something I need to look at.
My answer to stopping procrastination? You have to want to. I can’t give you that.
If I don’t. Because I hate it, I look to see if it actually needs to be done. If it does, then I see if I can outsource it (cleaning, dishes, etc)
If I must Be done, by me, I figure out what I need to Din to accomplish it, then I Amin to get one step somebody a day.
- What kinds of tasks do you consider deep work? And how long do you dedicate to them?
- Do you play music while doing deep work?
- How do you re-focus on your deep work when you realize you have become distracted?
- What are the bigger distractions for you: interior ones like your thoughts or feelings, or exterior, like noises, other people, etc? Which are more challenging for you?
- How can you be less stressed while doing homework?
- Do you set a time limit for deep work or do you just go with the flow?
- How do you work from home?
- How can I have a better focus for deep work?
- How do I stay more consistent with my deep work or any other habit?
- What makes you work for the whole day? (Over eight hours constantly in the deep mindset)