It really depends on the question to which you say no. But generally speaking, in my opinion it’s important to let who stands in front of you why the answer is no, so they know and feel that they are being told the truth rather just being waved off. If it is something important or emotional, you might also comfort them and try to encourage them so they can feel better about it. Showing some empathy and a kind word is helpful. It also depends on what are you
When someone asks you a question and you want to say no but you don’t know how? Just make an excuse like sorry i have plans that day or i am busy just make sure to not let it become a fight!
setting new boundaries in old areas and worlds can be tricky but its important in laying foundation for self and for future
Explain your reasons. A simple polite no will probably make the other person ask again and again and in the end you’ll have to be rude.
For example, if someone asked me to hang out but I made a promise to myself that I would have a self care. I would say “sorry but I am busy but I would love to do tomorrow or the next day”.
Sorry, I’m just not able to add that to my plate right now. Also being quite busy, I’m certain you understand an overflowing plate. Thank you for understanding!
Say no, and explain why. The explanation doesn’t have to be valid to them, but valid to you. For example, say someone is asking you to go out to the bar tonight. Simply say "No, thank you for inviting me but I am feeling tired and would prefer to get some rest" in this sort of situation you could always reschedule if you want to!
Personally I would just tell people my reason to refuse especially if the refusal is healing me but then again it depends on the people I’m saying no to. If it’s someone i care about I’d try to make them understand but if it’s an acquaintance I’d be reluctant to refuse. If I feel really guilty about it I’ll say sorry and try to make up for it the next day
Say “yes, but I have a suggestion…” or “oh, I would love to, but I must decline due to this pressing issue…” depending on what you are asked.
You can say no politely by simply doing that: Oh! no thank you, i appreciate the offer but ___ (and then state your reasoning)