Sorry to my bad english but I’m italian. Anyway I only focus on my goals, only 3 easy action. I explain to my boyfriend what I’m doing and he sometimes do it too (he drank a lot of water). Then I will add my habits, one each time.
I find it really hard myself. I tend to give in to the glass of wine or the after dinner cookies that are offered. Trusting that being too hard on myself will just harm the belief in the good intention.. not sure how to help myself here though..
For the past few years my family has not been “in my corner” much at all on anything. It has only been 6 months that I decided on a personal change or shift. Therefore everything that I do is for myself. Knowing this, I thank myself and congratulate myself on every win I get. What I have to “give” to my family, I give. I hope they get my change, but I do not seek their approval.
My motivation to develop good habits is from within me. In that sense then i am self motivated to be better and the app is my guide in achieving that.
I have told them I am doing this for me. They are free to join in but I need this to make me a happier, healthier human bean
I’m struggling with this too. Bedtime has become a real issue between my husband and myself for example but, I have utilized Fabulous ideas and find that with my sleep mask and ear plugs, I am not as disrupted as I used to be by the noise he is still making or his arrival to bed. You have to find your way around the obstructions in other words - there will ALWAYS BE obstructions when you are trying to change - you might even obstruct yourself sometimes but going beyond them is the entire point, the learning curve of life imo. Every time you effectively deal with one, you have this new insight about yourself which is I JUST DID THAT .... it makes you wonder what else you can do - it’s the most incredible snowball motivator effect.
You do what you want to do. It’s YOUR lifestyle that you wanna change, it’s YOU who is going through the things you’re going through, it’s YOUR decision to do whatever you want to do with your lifestyle (unless it’s a good decision). Don’t let your family members stop you from being a better version of YOU. And for the prioritise part, do what FABULOUS says. Wake up, drink water, eat, exercise, shower , groom yourself, etc. Good luck!
Stick to your guns, and if possible, change environments. If that’s not possible, get away often. Perhaps find some friends who are more supportive. Reach out on the Facebook group for support.
Be a role model and pave the way for positive change. If they see you can do it and it’s not miserable for you then they may become more open to trying what you are doing. Don’t worry about them right now, just navigate your own path and change.
I just do what is best for me. I don’t let anyone judge me based on what my habits are. If they do judge me then I ignore them.
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