Start with a gentle mind. Remember there is no right or wrong when doing this. You’re simply noting your thoughts and letting them pass like clouds through the sky. The more you observe the less anxious and busy your mind becomes.
I simply focus on breathing. This sounds easy but in fact it is not. You will have multiple thoughts and you will create theories about your meditation and mind which you will abandon after a while. There is no wrong way to meditate this way. In Zen they praise beginner’s mind because it does not know what to expect so there is not much of bias.
Theres no right or wrong way honestly. In your mind is where you can be yourself, you can focus and ground. I personally use a guided 8-9 minute meditation, and stay quiet and let my mind wander after the guided meditation has ended. Sometimes its 2 minutes. Sometimes its 20. There will be days where you need more time than others. Dont be discouraged or feel you arent doing it right. As long as you re enter your mind and feel a little bit more whole after you’re done, you’ve done the thing. If it helps, focus on your breath by saying 1 as you breathe in, and 2 as you breathe out in your mind. Or "in & out". Whatever works.
Why are you trying to meditate with just music in the first place? I’d probably switch to meditation with a guide. Maybe I’m biased since I always do guided meditations, but not sure why you are doing a version of the exercise that makes you more anxious - apart from obviously the opportunity to challenge yourself but I already find meditation challenging enough as it is :) I’d assume any non guided meditation you’d do it similarly, focusing on your breath, doing body scans. So you can try doing those. Otherwise I’d choose what works for you - which may be guided. Please note I meditate everyday but I am not knowledgeable on the practice and reasons to do one versus the other.
I think that’s something that comes with practice so if you need a guide for now that’s fine! When I’m antsy and meditation is a struggle I sometimes do some easy yoga and focus on breathing too. Sometimes the added movement makes it easier for me to focus. I figure it’s better than nothing since both yoga and meditation focus on the breath and quieting the mind
I’ve been meditating for years now. I started with guided meditation and eventually got to a point where I just wanted silence. I find that hearing things like birds and wind makes mediation interesting.
I don’t go unguided yet. I downloaded simple habit, and they take you through the meditation. It is really focusing on your breath at first just trying to get your mind in line with you intentions for the day. Download an app that helps guide you through and don’t overthink its. If your trying, you’re doing it right
I think there is no wrong in this. And how do you so sure about you doing it wrong? İf you ask me just get relax and try to focus on music that’s it. İf you have any thought you know this is normal just let them go without judging yourself.
I always meditate using the one giant mind app which is 98% music with guidance on the way in and out. It works brilliantly.
If you’re a beginner into meditation, a guided meditation is always the best way to start. When you feel confident enough to meditate by yourself you can move to a “solo” meditation. There’s no rush on this transition, both of them work in the same way. Choose what makes you comfortable. Just trust yourself and have a great time with your meditation.
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