Let all the emotions out and then take note of what comes out. Write it down in your notes app or notebook.
Then keep think about how you can manage this differently. Think about why you cared more about it and how that’s different to now.
First, I remind myself to observe the emotion. Not to resist it, let myself feel it without attaching to it, and let it flow through. If I’m not resisting but it still won’t pass, then I sit with it and ask, What is this anger trying to tell me? Usually there isn’t an answer. Just making space for the question is enough. But when an answer does come … 🤯.
Second, gratitude journaling really helps. I had an executive meeting one Monday morning, and I walked out so angry, it stayed with me all day. When I journaled that night, I forced myself to write about why I was thankful to have felt that anger all day. And holy cow, it shifted my entire perspective on my situation and my responsibility for it, and how I could change it.
Third (and this relates back to the first point), I stopped judging my anger. The more I make friends with my dark side, shadow self, or whatever you prefer to call it, the more whole I feel. And the more I do that, the more I realize my anger is more often than not a messenger.
Often it helps to write my thoughts and rereading it shows some irrational or incorrect perspective that I alter
If I am angry and I feel it’s justified, I’ll go outside. It’s important to have air. I’ll take deep breaths
- What do you do to disconnect& unplug, if your mind is still full of to do’s? How do you prepare to disconnect?
- How do you disconnect from the perceived intense connections and relationships with others?
- I don’t really understand what it means by disconnecting and unplugging?
- How can we disconnect and unplug when we are supposed to be using the Fabulous app (this requires the use of my phone)?
- What’s best to do instead of using my phone before bed?
- Do we need to disconnect an hour before we go to bed or before we go bed?
- Does this mean all screens? Like iPad iPhone tv and laptop into one? Because i watch TV to relax before bed (TV is in the lounge room so I still have to walk to my room afterwards) I’m disciplined with only watching one episode. Then disconnect is i just use my phone only for the fabulous app or urgent family messages then put it on silent. Is that enough?
- Any tricks for not being tempted by your phone?
- How do I stop my self from watching YouTube or Netflix on my laptop till 1:00 am?
- When disconnecting from the phone what’s a good way to insure you won’t be tempted to use it?