I personally think you can’t stop having self doubt and insecure thoughts. I think you just have to realize that those thoughts aren’t true. I feel so insecure when I’m out of my house. I think it’s because we feel everyone has highlighted our flaws, but they really haven’t. If you are having trouble with insecure thoughts immediately push them away and start to learn to find comfort in your body. Love your insecurities! If you have scars/ stretch marks it shows your story. If you have too much skin, then that’s more skin to love! Turn a negative into a positive. It really helps to find a home and comfort in your body. Think of your body as your best friend. Except your body will ALWAYS be with you. That’s a good thing. Would you call your friend fat, or too skinny? Probably not. I want to say sorry to your body for ever thinking it wasn’t good enough. Now, I want you to realize that it’s YOUR BODY! No one has the right to say anything about it. You can control you body and how it effects you. I hope this helped! You are so strong and beautiful!
A breathing exercise might help, as well as third chakra work - insecurities come from lack of approval and thus it it important to have justification for thyself from within. Google how to balance third chakra and challenge yourself to these practices and you will have an overall better situation is about just few weeks! Remember, it didn’t take you one day to become doubtful, so take your time to channel this in a way that wouldn’t hide the insecurities away from you, but resolve them.
I understand what you’re going though. I also sometimes feel insecure with myself, feel that I’m a fraud. To help myself feel better, I usually try to remember all the things I accomplished or completed. Also remember, no one judges you harder than yourself.
You cannot do this until you face the problem directly head on however it is much like fire. You must walk into the fire without being burned. Slowly very slowly take your own time come closer and closer to the flame. At your own time walk into the middle of the flame when you can withstand and not be burned by it .you meditate upon this before bed. While inhaling say iam not the body While exhaling say I am not the mind Do this before bed until you fall asleep
Notice the feeling and pinpoint what Thought that feeling was a reacion to. Even if you think it was something in the enviroment, its usually not - the feeling stem from a Thought from within - and out thoughts can be somewhat managed, if you Learn to observe and notice them. I recommend meditation!
Prepare your mind and have willpower, when those thoughts of doubts reach your mind you must fight them immediately to make them disappear, and always remember that you can do that and much more.
I would be grateful for the inner voice asking for clarification. “Am I doing this right?” “Am I good enough?” Then look how far you’ve come! You are better than you were yesterday and you will be even better tomorrow. Believe you have the power to change anything you don’t like about yourself or your circumstances & you will take this one step at a time :)
There is no easy answer, our thoughts are like pathways in our minds. Everytime we give in to self-doubt, we strengthen the path. Every time we decide that the story we are telling ourselves is untrue and we instead believe in ourselves it creates a new pathway and habit of thinking more positively. This can be honed using self-love meditations and compassionate-abiding practices. That means when we see we are not being compassionate and generous to ourselves we can choose to stop and think about a moment that we were successful in. Take a moment to feel into that successful sensation. Tap into the gratitude we have for our own ability. Be who you want to be because that’s who you really are. We are on our own team!
I’ve found that the way I stop those moments of self-doubt from coming is to confront them each time with truth (even truth that I’m not sure is quite true about me at the moment). This practice “answers” the self-doubt with a conflicting truth and the repetition helps to reinforce the actual situation and those thoughts occur less and less. It’s like exercising a weak “positive self-talk” muscle. It must become stronger through repetition and the way the brain works is that it ends up taking over the negative self-talk one! Amazing!
You have to be aware of the fact that those are just negative thoughts. Those thoughts are not your reality. Know that you are so much more worth and that you are so beautiful and unique! Love yourself, talk positive about yourself and believe that you can be bigger than those negative thoughts. Don’t let that define who you are. You have to define yourself by your own voice and actions. If you have more questions for me you can always ask me. Thank you!
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