Negative self talk and self sabotage go hand in hand. I often find that this negative self talk is the stem of the reasons I end up self sabotaging. First key is to identify the negative self talk and learn the tricks to stop it in its tracks. Second is to turn the entire situation on it’s head, often I think about a choice as if it were for someone else rather than me. Then the value seems to elevate, simply because it’s not me. Negative self talk is pervasive and I’ve found the ultimate and greatest tool to start changing this pattern, is to take the blinders off that are giving you tunnel vision to only look at yourself. Service to others is the ultimate tool to changing this way.