It’s so hard but I have a token move that picks me up. It starts with doing one nice healthy positive thing for myself and then the rest follows
I pause to recognize the values I have and that they fundamentally have not change. I have slipped up but I am striving for the same goals. I look at the examples I have around me of people who have started good habits later in life. I recognize that their life has been improved by the good habits. I use these excellent examples as encouragement to restart the good habits. If the rut is especially bad or long I sit with a notebook and go through the same routine but writing down my values, reasons I have not adhered to them, and encouraging reasons to start again.
I’m also struggling with this question. Life derails my focus and I slump into old habits. Awareness and Journalling helps.
This has been one of my biggest challenges in forming new habits. I listened to a recording of a talk someone gave years ago, and she talked about bringing this problem to a very close friend. Her friend responded: “Ah, yes, I used to struggle with that myself. Then I learned not to beat myself up, even one little bit, when it happened, and to tell myself: ‘Simply resume.’” I’m not sure why but this has totally worked for me. Whenever I lapse and don’t do the new habit, I just say to myself, “It’s okay. Simply resume.” And then I do the habit that day, and I’m always right back on track. Hope this helps!
I think no one is perfect all the time and that is ok. I remind myself the reasons I want to make the change and consider it a worthy habit or behavior. If I believe it is in fact worthy I recommit to the change. I accept there will be times I eat junk food or spend a week where I’m too busy or unmotivated to exercise. The problem more to me is if the unhealthy behaviors become the regular ongoing every day habits which I guess is the rut. That’s where some outside help/advice/instruction/extra motivation and accountability are really helpful. This app for example.
I make a new plan to put water by my bed at night, set my alarm and ly my clothes out to get to the gym early in the morning, and I buy a snack pack of fresh veggies and ranch dressing at the gas station convenience store. Next I plan my next fasting day which gives me a boost of mental and physical clarity. And I make a date with a good friend. Tomorrow is always a new day to make a fresh start.
Look forward and think of the progress that you have made and the good that can come along as you go. We are human and we are not perfect. You will probably fail for a moment but you will keep going and get better at each step.
I prepare everything the last night, I have always a list to do and I really like to do all of them and see the check mark. It’s really motivator. And didn’t eat same things everyday, I’m vegan and I eat someday a banana and apple, some days I eat a berry smoothie or an oatmeal that I’ve prepared it from last night. It’s completely depends on yours.
- How could I effectively use my time without laziness
- I need this to be so simple. And struggle to now what to include and what to leave out. Too basic and they seem pointless. Too detailed and they seem to take up too much time I could be focusing on other things… any suggestions on how to prioritise and discriminate between tasks to include and task to accept as given.
- Do you write the small and mundane tasks like cook, go for a walk etc on your list?
- What do you include in your most basic routines- what is something that simply must be done no matter what?
- Do you write only a few tasks on your to do list, or do you write everything that you have to do and then pick the top three or so to get done today? I’m never sure which approach is most effective.
- Do you check and adjust your to do list throughout the day? How do you remember?
- Do you ever feel like you write to much stuff to do for one day?
- Do you write down your routines too or skip them since they are ‘routines’?
- Which order do you accomplish your tasks? Due date? Importance? Fun making it?
- what are some things you always put on your to do? do you find that having the same activity at the same space everyday makes you more likely or less likely to actually do it??