Well, as someone who fell while playing Pokemon Go and chipped her tooth, I can speak from experience. I was so demoralized after the fall that I didn’t want to go out and walk, let alone play the game. But eventually I found the inspiration to play again after an update to the game. But this time, I changed my strategy so that I wouldn’t have to worry about falling. I decided to play while traveling with other people and take advantage of my room mate’s errand runs to get some walking in. Falling is always a part of life, but as long as you get up more often than you fall down, that’s ok.
I fail every time, pretty much... I guess we’ll keep failing together for the rest of our lives? I’m not sure what else there is to do 😕
Accepting that failure is ok has been so important to my progress. I used to beat myself up about failure, and that made it harder to get back on the wagon again. Now, when I realize that I’m off track (and sometimes I don’t notice for weeks) I take some time to check in with myself: I credit myself with recognizing that I need to realign myself with my goals. I ask myself, why did I fail? What was I prioritizing instead of that goal? If it was another goal, then I congratulate myself, but I also recognize that it is time to realign my priorities. This past week I was so busy at work and I have been working really hard on my exercise goal that my money management, diet and cleaning goals were completely neglected. I assessed where I was and how I got there, but I didn’t place a negative value judgement on myself. I told myself that I needed a reset on Monday, and I got so much done today! When you allow yourself opportunities to fail, then you notice it and reset when you’re able, you’ll find that your baseline keeps rising. Yeah, I didn’t clean at all last week, but it only took one day to get back to a place that is wayyy better than before I started working on that goal. Progress is not a straight line!
A failure is nothing more than a lesson. A chance for growth. How far to scale back depends on the answer to the following: 1- Why do I deem this a failure? 2 - By how much did I fail? 3 - Being kind but firm, how much do I know I can manage? Once you’ve reflected, reassess and pick a level that’s enough of a challenge to give a sense of achievement without being overwhelming. Hopefully that makes sense?
I would suggest starting with small habits and in just one area of your life. Just one new habit for a couple of weeks, something that takes just a little time to complete. Gradually you can increase the length of the habit and/or add new habits. There is no point in thinking that you will fail forever, because we are never the same for a long time! You can succeed!
don’t scale back. try again. fail again. fail better. the highest you aim, the more impressive your failures will be. asim for ther moon and if you miss, ay lest you have hit the stars.
Set your big goal but enjoy the small success that you achieve along the way. Don’t compare yourself to others. 😉 That’s what makes you think you’re gonna fail for the rest of your life. Avoid negative people. They’ll make you feel horrible about yourself while all they want is for you to fall. Do small, live big.
its taken me a long time to get here but i now try to see that when i miss my mark of what i had hoped to accomplish with something, to see it as information about my limits and boundaries instead o f as something to beat myself up about.
I don’t think I should scale back expectations too far - I prefer to dream big and keep trying because that’s motivating. However there will be moments I will have to say to myself, ‘Ok let’s go back to basics’ and do something so achievable just to build up momentum and develop further into it. But I’ve never been one to lower standards to the point of easy achievability simply because that makes another issue arise of dissatisfaction. Keep dreaming and working for it for the rest of your life - technically we can’t achieve absolutely everything in this world all the time, but we can adjust and prioritise what we want to do with it and what our circumstances are along each step and how to put ourselves in a better position for our own definitions of success.
Don’t think of expectations and whether you will achieve them or not. Divert your focus to thoughts like what should you do to achieve what you want? What small steps you want to take everyday so that you will become an achiever? Replace your negetive thoughts with positive ones.
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