How do you manage to still be grateful on days when everything seems dark and pointless?

Bertram X.
You can always be greatful because these days are finally over at the end of the day. You can also be greatful that you are still living, breathing, feeling and have arms and legs and feelings. Remember about those small little things that you might not see because you always had it.

Ndrea A.
I don't know. I would try to focus in my effort and what I have and what I've made for myself and in the now and here. Trying to be grateful for giving yourself the space to try.

Atarah N.
I try finding that one moment that actually wasn't dark and pointless. Some People said to me that it's always there, you Just have to look for it. Sometimes it takes me a little while longer before I find a good moment, but most of the time I find it really fast. And then I feel grateful for that moment and for finding that moment.

Lidia C.
Thanks for this question! Sometimes everything feels useless, dark and pointless, and it feels hard to be grateful. For me it works to focus on little things that make me grateful. The little lightpoints in the darkness, we will say :). Even when it's very dark and difficult, there are always a few little things to be grateful about. For example: you're breathing, you've socks, the sun shines (or it rains, just write it down on the list or thjngs to be grateful for, it works), you've a smartphone, etc. Just stsrt writing at your happy-thingslist, remember that even when you only have one thing, it's something to be grateful about. Very long answer, I'm sorry :). Love you, praying for you (write down on your grateful things list :)!)

Aala N.
Sometimes the problems are a gift because I can get a big award against them . And may they are from my mistakes , then I have to apologize , and correct myself before it gets too late ,So i can be greatful that I noticed that . And be greatful that i remembered that this life is full of problems and causes and doesn't worth to waste my times for it and must think of a bigger target that is endless . Because everything at life ends one day . I think that it is better to be grateful for the causes and take it as a reminder and try to take benefit of it and think about it . Maybe the correct thinking is what lets a person wake up from his ignorance . Any how I can try to be greatful and try to get the rest of my life an opportunity for thinking and changing my way . Knowing that absolutely I am dying one day so soon . Anyhow I must be greatful that I am exist and I should think that why and for what purpose I am lifing . And think about anystep that I take where it will take me to and what will be then . I am greatful that I also have a way to reach the right destination . I am greatful that I still have a chance have a hope . That I have an eye and have a heart . I am greatful that I have a goal . I am greatful that I tend to beauty ………

Sacramento P.
well my be grateful act is part of my morning routine so just after i’ve woken up, had a delicious breakfast and my teeth taste minty and fresh from just brushing them, it’s a really good mindset i’m in after all that so i’m usually grateful for my food, my house, my opportunity for education as i get to online school afterwards. after putting yourself in the rest mind set, it’s easy to find things to be grateful for x

Manon S.
By looking out of the window and into the world. Realising how magical the nature is helps me to feel grateful for being here to witness it's splendor.

Amanda F.
This can be hard but, gratitude doesn't have to be epic to still exist. Sometimes, even on the hardest and darkest days, simply acknowledging gratitude for ones breath, or warmth under the covers, or the gift of choice is all you might need to find that glimmer of peace and light in the dark. And, even if you're just glad that the day is done (because tomorrow is a new one and a new opportunity) that is still something to be grateful for.

Cordula N.
I think you have to just pause. Stop what you’re doing and look for something. Actively do it rather than simply trying to think. Use your eyes and look. It might not be the first obvious thing you think of or your first thought. It might be something you see everyday but never think to be grateful of.

If I stopped right now (I’ve been cleaning my house all day and feel crappy about it), like I actually stop, breathe and look around. I’m grateful I have a safe home. I’m grateful for the cooker I have to cook on, and the meals I have access to because I have a functioning kitchen.

So have a look around now, do you have a comfy bed that allows you rest? Do you have a pet that loves you unconditionally? Maybe the sun is shining. Do you have running water and a functioning bathroom that allows you to stay clean. You can be grateful for literally anything.

Savannah Z.
I try to concentrate on small joys: tasty coffee, a glass of water with lemon, sunshine or rain, i express gratitude for health, independence, success i have achieved even if I wanted more I appreciate what i have got and life always rewards me with more joys. Breathe each time you are overwhelmed, put a short meditation video and you’ll feel much better

Nicoldest W.
Everyday that we wake up is another day to be grateful. I’m grateful even on bad days because a new day is a new opportunity to change my current

Aya L.
You always see hope, believing that every thing happens for a reason, and try to see the bigger picture of this darkness that will impact with good on you after this time passes you will realize that you are in better place because of the time you suffered. Hope you all the best bro❤️❤️❤️

Mads F.
during dark and pointless days there are still those small moments that make you happy like the sun shiningnon your face or seeing your mom laugh all of these small things i try to take note of and remember and see that even in those dark time there is still light shining. i can still be happy

Roginea Q.
I remind myself that there are Other people around the world that are poor and still living happy and as such I should be grateful for what I’ve accomplished up to this point in life and that the journey doesn’t ends here for me. I have more accomplishments to achieve

Christa T.
So if it's more if a hearing the alarm issue then change the tune of your alarm because peoples hearing adapts and changing the tune helps to pull us out of sleep because it doesn't match what we are used to hearing. If it's motivation like you turn off the alarm and go back to sleep find music that makes you excited to hear and when you turn off the alarm look for that song or get up as soon as the alarm goes off and walk to the bathroom. Alot of the time our body doesn't realise it's awake until we have really moved. Also try going to bed earlier so your body gets the sleep it needs make it a point to put your phone down 30 mins before you go to sleep so you aren't tempted to stay up

Liz I.
I think being grateful goes hand in hand with optimism and hope. On bad days I usually see photos of happy moments to remind me that things change from one moment to another.

Christa T.
We usually tend to give more importance to the things that are bad or that we can't control, but if you try, even on the worst day, to make a list of things to be grateful, like food on the table, and a bed, a roof, a job… anything you feel grateful to have, it may help and ease the bad feelings.

Hollie I.
I look at my life from the perspective of someone else in a totally different world than me. And realize that my reality isn't as dark as I perceive.

Hannah B.
Well I guess for me that's the easy part once I was told this. When everything is starting to feel really heavy, acknowledge the thought you're having. Observe its contents and simply let it pass. When you're complete with that, imagine in your mind everything in your life that brings you meaning, a purpose, a goal, joy. Be compassionate with yourself and tell yourself everything is going to work out in the end even if I may be struggling a little bit temporarily. Those heavy feelings are okay to be felt just a tiny bit, but never let your emotions control you. You are the master of self, so when you think positive, positive things will come your way. 1. Acknowledge the issue or cause. 2. Ask yourself "Is this issue anything I have control over?" If not then come to terms and let it go, it's okay to cry & release. If it is then 3. Come up with constructive solutions. 4. Implement those solutions into your daily life. 5. Daily positive affirmations of the person you wish to become to be the best version of yourself. You can do with with love, passion and dedication. Much love sent your way.

Anya N.
It's definitely difficult- but I manage to remind myself that while I don't have to be grateful for *everything*, there's always *something*. I can be grateful for my breath, for my comfortable bed, for experiencing different seasons, for my comic books, for the smell of nature, for small moments of being present, for the snacks in my cupboard, for the new day coming tomorrow… Although it doesn't always turn my mood around, taking some time every night to think about even small good things helps to get me in a good mindset overall through time.

Olivia U.
Well, when everything seems dark, I think about the best times I ever had. The unforgettable things. And then I forget about the dark thoughts and relax.

Christa T.
I often will think about the people who my life has an impact on. That’s a lot harder to think of when you feel like no one cares. However, if you think about everyone you have talked to in the last week, each of those people know who you are, and care a lot to have you in their lives. So understanding the impact that I have on other people, and thinking of who my absence would affect keeps me going.

Lea W.
To be honest I have not been on this journey very long. I have yet to feel discouraged. One of my exercises is walking. I have a walking partner and that helps if I’m not feeling I want to. Also I have dogs that need the walk and are so happy to go. Their joy is so contagious. I always feel great for going. The weather has been great as well. I’m grateful.
I hope this helps you, one step at a time.

Javier G.
I don’t always. I don’t always recognize it early on and physically. If I could or did, it would save me pain for sure. I often don’t seem to trust myself to “turn it around” yet I always do

Emma W.
Siempre las trato de ver de la mejor manera y aunque sean malas aprender de ellas para en algún futuro o momento las pueda corregir.

Shani J.
i try to remember the great things in life that i am grateful for. it reminds me of why life is better than i think it is at the moment and takes my mind off of the stressful situation i may be in.

Michael T.
I don’t really know, I need coaching on here… have found it really frustrating getting round the site sometimes..
However, things can get dark sometimes, but daylight will usually follow, parties aren’t meant to last either..
Thats finding a balance is so important, understand that you can’t be happy or sad all the time. If indeed you find yourself sad all the time it would be prudent to see a doctor as it may be biological , or physical complication.
P.S Good luck in/on your journey hope there will be sunshine for you 😊💪🏻👍🏻 Be safe and stay ace! G

Camille P.
Those are the days I find it most important to try and be grateful. Those dark days I start but writing down very high level things I’m grateful for, like access to food and water, a bed to sleep in. On good days is easier to start diving into the little more mindful things.

Christina S.
When I'm having a tough day I try to start with very basic things to be grateful for…like being alive, the parts of my body that work and don't hurt, the people in my life that I care about, the things that make me smile when I'm struggling, like my favorite comfy blanket, snuggling with my dog or a hug from my son. Sometimes it's just that the sun is out and that the day is halfway done… Or that I've had the strength to get through such a tough day… Try to change your perspective, that's what practicing gratitude is all about.

Melanie N.
Because on my journey I have learned that there is always something to be grateful for. Even on my worst days I try and think of what I am grateful for. Even if it’s for my breathe. Be grateful to be able to wake up. Even if it’s a bad day I still Woke up, I feel, I’m breathing, I had food to eat, clean water to drink, clean clothes, my home. I step back and try to realize that my moment seems bad, the situation may seem bad, but I know I have the Universe and the Divine on my side. I stay Grateful for that also. I remember to be grateful I can take a hot shower whenever I want. I have a vehicle. I don’t want to forget these things because so many don’t have simple daily things some of us have.

Dalal N.
Remember there’s tomorrow.
Get deeply into my thoughts and think of something positive that happened that day (there’s always something good that happen everyday even tho it’s simple)

Timeo C.
Look at the little things in life, like how you have food and water, reading a book in a cafe, the first sip of an iced coffee! It's the little things that will make you grateful and happy ♡♡

Katerina P.
I wasn't grateful before. My aunt brought me a gratitude journal once from Singapore. I didn't know how to use it. I'm trying to be grateful over small things in life now. Like having a shelter.

K Ra V.
I is not always easy but I try to remember the positive things. I never give up, I never stop thinking if I can’t name three things I am grateful for. For me, persistency is the key.

Nora G.
At the end of the day I still focus on the good and beautiful thinks. Even if it’s: I saw a squirrel and it was fun. I force my mind to think simply and nicely about the day. After some days it’s become easier.

Afro N.
I start to realize that there are always good things even in the darkest days. I just need to think harder, concentrate and look behind the bad . Then I can find at least one good thing to be greatful

Leda Q.
Fordi jeg fortsatt puster er det håp om at jeg får erfare en bedre tid lenger ut i min tidslinje i dette livet . Min jobb er å skape nettopp dette. Bedre tider for meg og alle rundt meg. Det er alltids masse å være takknemlig for. Takknemlighet øker frekvensen og glad følelsen, derfor må en alltids jobbe med å være i takknemlighet.

Christa T.
Usually oatmeal or cream of wheat that I fix up ,or some eggs and ham or leftovers depending on how quickly you want to eat

Alena S.
I try to think of all the littlest things that can sometimes be overlooked. I think of how bees fall asleep in flowers, my son's tiny feet, the way a cool breeze passes you by on a hot day, and how ice cream will always be good no matter how dark things get. If you can't have ice cream then, there is always a flower

Noor L.
My prophet taught me to be grateful to Allah no matter what happen because he knows the best and I will never forget about that little thing

Faustina E.
I search for even the smallest thing, like having a good hair day or feeling well enough to accomplish my tasks for that afternoon. Sometimes the more serious answers, like being grateful for my loved ones, is a nice reminder of who & what I have in life.

Rajanti Z.
When life is dark.parents are mad. I think of all the fun we did or look at photos and you don't get what yyou want except it. It will come later

Morgane W.
When everything seems dark & pointless I started to think about what I have now and I'm grateful for those things. And also I'm happy with all the things I have not I haven't .I don't worry about the darkest and pointless day because I'm trusting everything happens for a reason and enjoy the every moment 🥰😄

Lara Y.
When everything seems dark in my life i just teu to focus on the good thing even if they are só small as an ant because this are the little things that make me think how lucky i am and how grateful i am.

Ces Rio A.
I try to find out the smallest good thing that happen to me that day. Even if everything seems dark, the negative events also give some lessons and these lessons are my gratitude for the day. These kind of negative things also help me to keep patience , to reflect , and to become a better version of me.

Shani J.
I focus on the small, but good things in my life. I focus on the fact that my needs are met and that I could have been in a worse condition than the one I am in. That's always grounds me.

Fionuala Q.
I start naming things/people/places that I love. I usually give thanks for my family first. My husband makes me coffee every morning so I’ll be grateful for that. Then I’ll think of my son and feel grateful for him and so on. I love nature and trees so I’ll think of my favourite places and be thankful that I live in a beautiful area.
When things feel really bad I reel things off in list form such as: I’m grateful for my family, nature, coffee, nice car, ability to drive, holidays, being able to buy food etc etc
The more you say, the more things come to you and you start to remember things aren’t so bad. If I am feeling really bad one day I will repeat this several times throughout that day. Anytime I notice that I am having bad thoughts I replace them with my gratitude list.

Amanda C.
I’m trying to be grateful for my small daily victories, I realized that when I focus on big goals I get frustrated too easily, so Being grateful for being able to archive small daily goals has helped me to have a more grateful heart.

C Me W.
Those are the days when you need gratitude the most. Name out loud everything good in your life, no matter how small it seems. You have shelter. You have food, you have clean water, you have a phone and access to the internet. You're working on improving yourself. Etc.

Ma A Z.
Because I'm always grateful for having life and another chance to start again if everything is messed up. Keep that in mind 😊

Viviana U.
I remind myself that I have survived all of my bad days and I should be thankful at least for that, for being strong, for making it through and for having another chance tomorrow. Also, knowing it will be better one day. I hope this helps you. Much love! V

Marco U.
I'm grateful for everything in my life! I have wonderful children, a good husband, a sweet cat and I'm happy with my work. The people I meet are also so great and happy. I try to lift up myfamily, friends and clients. In return I get great energie from all those beautiful people!

Catalina V.
I look at the little things to be grateful for. He mundane. Clean drinking water. A roof over my head. A phone. Things we forget are blessings

Tala N.
being grateful is a tool that helps you seeing the bright light on days when everything is pointless and dark. By practicing grateful exercises by seeing my good health my parents health my support from my friends. Even by appreciating a the goos taste of the first sip of my coffee. Sometimes just by looking around a saying thank you that i can see what is around me some people are blind. There is always a good side next to the dark one. It depends on what your thoughts are attracting and the energy around you is making you feel.

Shreya N.
On the dark days I am still able to walk talk express and share my feelings with my loved ones. That is the biggest blessing. I have a roof over my head when the sky is falling apart. Food on my table when millions if people are dying of hunger and constant love and support of my family. That is all you need to get through any dark day of my life.

Nalam F.
There are days when we feel very sad, dark and ungrateful. But we should remember to enjoy the presence and let go of anger and hate. Only remember to live the moment to the fullest and be greatful for your life.
On such dark days we have to make ourselves to be greatful for everything that make your life beautiful. I personally try do some activities that make me cheerful and happy. One such thing is to spend time with my family and friends. These people are the ones who will be always with you till the end so spend some quality time with them and share your feelings or any thoughts. I am sure that they will make your dark days so happy by comforting and pampering you. You can also socialise and go for a walk.
When your happy and cheerful you definitely feel greatful.

Franziska F.
I look to the light at the end of the tunnel. I reflect on the goals that I have, and how important they are to me, and how necessary it is for me to work and grind for them, even when I'm so lonely and sad an unmotivated.

I also think about the people close to me, and traditionally we think of how much people mean to us. However, I like to think about how much I mean to them. How important I am in their lives, and how I help other people. This brings me joy and confidence, and gratitude that I'm helping others.

Ahmet Q.
I try to think positive mindsets as my boyfriend and his sisters help me feel happy and confident which makes me think about things that make me confident.

Corinne O.
Some things I’m always grateful for, everyone has their worst point their lowest point darkest days etc so if you’re not their now you’ve come far. I’m grateful that I escaped an unhealthy house, I’m healing, I’m working through my trauma & now I’m safe

Shine A.
Even on those days when you’re in a dark place . Be grateful you woke up and you’re alive. Then think of someone or something that make you smile or laugh. Are what a comedy show?

Giadi N.
It's not easy, but starting in the morning promising myself that it will be a fantastic day, I strive every day to get out of the dark moments or anger, and when it happens I am grateful because, even if I don't always succeed, I know I tried and this makes me proud of me

Yuki V.
Think about your body. Your heart, your brain, your guts work 24h without you asking them or managing them. They are working to keep you living.

Christa T.
We have had quite a rough 12 years and my husband and I are still together. I didnt have nice boyfriends before him so I appreciate everything he does for us. Dont get me wrong we still have our moments but I am grateful for him, my kids, my mum and what we have accomplished for our children. We may not be rich but we are comfortable and love our home. I still have dark days But knowing he is there gets me through. I don't know what I would do if he left me hence the reason to work hard on dry days but I struggle.

Earl P.
I tend to talk to a very close friend of mine, but sometimes i try to stop thinking about it but i can’t and sometimes i just overthinking too much

Shani J.
Hmm.. think about the happy moments and memories with them and goods about them or just be happy with what you already have!

Andrew E.
I definitely find that hard sometimes but gradually I am finding if I sit and reflect I can find something to be grateful for even on my darkest days. This in turn perks me up

Kristin S.
I find that once I’ve got the gratitude diary open, the struggle is mostly won. I think back hopelessly across what actually happened in my day “urgh you didn’t DO anything today, what a waste” and my inner snarky teen comes to my rescue! “Even when you’re doing nothing, you’re doing something!” Such a smartie pants 😒 but he has a point. I’m grateful for the breath in my body. Then I’m grateful for the weather – whatever it was I link it to something that I appreciate e.g. rain brings flowers, storms are exciting, sun, well that’s obvious! Maybe I’ll be grateful for this apparently meaningless exercise, which while neither heartfelt nor revolutionary is building resilience and making the next steps that infinitesimally incrementally easier.

Actually getting to the gratitude app is often by virtue of stubbornness and a dislike of losing a streak 😆

Nat A.
I try to remember everything I've been through and that I'm still here, alive. Because I'm a fighter deep down! And then I try to remember how far I've come!

Shani J.
I think about the things I have.It makes me happy.Because I dont have so much material things ,but I have good qualities ,my thinking patterns makes me a good person .I thank universe for that

Matilde N.
I allow myself some time to feel gloom first. Aknowledge the sadness and the Rage and the pain, welcome them in a way. And only afterward I try to aknowledge what's good too, without washing away the rest of the emotions. At times it's more like "a light in the dark" than "all light and love". I don't always manage to do so, but that's what I try to do in these days. I don't think one should force it

Olina X.
I have to focus on all the good things that are infused into my life. Even a small happening is something to be grateful for

Mariam U.
I believe that every hard time will pass what ever how long it takes, my inner peace is powerful weapon against dissapointment , being grateful keeps tis peace strong and capable of rough events handling

Felix J.
I always try to find some small things to be grateful for. That's all. No magic in it. Just be happy for every small thing that happens to you.

Ricky T.
Yesterday was like this for me I needed to stop everything and really think about my present and possibilities for the future.
Breath and believe in your self !

Casey W.
By looking at even the simpler things someone else always has it worse. Even if its down to the fact I have a roof over my head food in my tummy etc

Nadya Q.
Its hard. I think I need time to make myself better first, seeing in many different perspectives for seeking good things behind. Then I can be grateful.

Katie P.
Sometimes I’ll write down the things that are bothering me, then I’ll think about it and find solutions. It can be real or fake, I like to make imaginary solutions and I like to have fun with them. After that I feel much better

Ziyuan G.
Focus on the positive. Notice them. Don't let the negativity overpower the positive one. There are lots of reason to be grateful and thankful of. Every single things, the people, The aroma, the atmosphere, everything, it's so wonderful, making the bad ones seem so minute. Why care about them if u got so many things to be happy about? By gones will be bygones. What will be will be. You have a long way to go. Why not live happier ?

Roland E.
I focus on what is good and I am greatful for that, I am grateful that I am alive, healthy, I have water to drink, I have food to eat, I have roof over my head, good enough to me to survive dark days.

Jeremiah O.
It really depends on how much you want to be grateful and change your life completely ,remember even the slightest things or privelages that we might have never noticed could be something to be grateful for and could lighten up your sad day knowing that there is something to be grateful for,you don't have to stress it out and write down or be grateful for a hundred things ,just think about 2 or 3 things and that's enough😊

Jj Y.
I consider what I still have and haven't lost, like shelter, clothing, food, internet, books, and all my belongings. Many have nothing, not even basic shelter and food, so I can be grateful for having my basic needs met and being able to think beyond basic survival.

Ray P.
“It could of been worse”.. is a a phrase I try to implement more often into my life, especially on those days that things seems like it couldn’t get any worse. Not everyday is going to be a GREAT day but every day can be a BETTER day.

Brooke S.
It’s a battle for sure. I’d say start small; say you are thankful for the warm blankets on your bed, the way the rain sounds on your roof, the fact that you can laugh/smile. It might seem silly to write that kind of thing down, but it helps to get you in the right mindset. And if you have days where you repeat what you are grateful for, that’s okay too!

Julz E.
Sometimes I can’t. Other times I try and relax and I think of how lucky I am to have such minor issues in a great big world that is full of negatives much worse than I could ever imagine. Because it could be worse, there is always time to repent for being so ungrateful, and to appreciate and be grateful for all of the things I have and am.

Nada R.
Try to remind myself that with every hardship there is ease. That there is a jewel hiddin as a lesson in what i am going through. That i won't be in this state if i cannot handle it. What is this situation trying to teach me? What can i do at this moment to make it better. What can i do good for myself that is better than what i am thinking and reacting? I try to reming myself im holding the space for me that im doing my best. I start writing a brain fump when i remember letting everything as i can out and aim to end that by a list of things im grateful for even when i cannot feel and embody them. The list can be anything that i see with my eyes around me to the thoughs even the negative ones. I focus on its a blessing im able to think to percieve to write to be sitting on this chair for this pen etc. It helps make what feels like a hurricane much more settled. Even if im generally still down im more clearheaded.

Hans Dieter O.
Focus on something like you're skin or a medical condition that you don't have you. Were put into this world for a reason and the reason why you don't have the condition that you are thinking of is because the world wants to see you thrive. Make the most out of you're life and the world will give you what you deserve.

Christa T.
Well I'm a teenager so I really try and talk my feelings out but if I physically or mentally can't you usually pray or go to my friend.

Marvin Z.
You should search for the smallest things. Oh my coffee smelled nicely, oh I saw a pretty flower, oh my hair looked lighter today! Happiness is stored in unusual places but exists; she just waits for you to come and find her. Take care buddy it gets better <3

Kris N.
Positivity! Find the joy in your life and live in the present. Help others to find out how to reframe their mind. Quiet that negative voice by challenging it’s repeated negative comments. Dance. Love. Be yourself. Love yourself.

Anna U.
I focus on the basics, the fact that I have somewhere warm and dry to sleep, clothes to cover my body, and food to eat. On top of that, I have people in my life I can lean on and share things with.

Lola B.
Not many, unless I really need to maybe 1 or 2 or more if I'm stressed or happy

take the time to do it
if you belive it it will be true

Aleksandra C.
I have so many things to be grateful for, no matter how bad my day may seem. I am alive, I live in a civilized place, I am loved, I have beautiful children and they are healthy. There is nothing more worthy of thankfulness.

Chris G.
Sometimes the only thing I'm grateful for in the day is the fact that it's finally ending. This leaves me with hope for the next day:)

Constance O.
I remember my good days which i had and think that even rainy clouds will go away and sun will shine again so i keep being grateful for everything i have now.

Olivier L.
Just by thinking a lot of my Creator who has never stopped granting me favour. One of them is my health and my heart peace and so on… I can just be grateful to Him.

Gabrielle I.
I’m grateful to even have the bad days because without them we would never fully appreciate the good days. That’s how I try finding the light at the end of the tunnel. Every day is a new 24 hours, I gotta seize it

Christa T.
Think about how you have advantages in comparaison to other people that have less than you. That should motivate you to do what you can do.

Artem X.
Days can't be dark or pointless. They r just days. Im trying to focus on my mind and my doing. Thats what I can change to have a 'good day'