I let it pass like one or more clouds. The same must be done before meditation: eat, pi, drink water and use always the same place to meditate.
Meditation has helped me a lot, it helps me break out from the cycle of worries that usually takes place in my head. If I’m having trouble concentrating and making myself the priority in my meditation practice, I stop for a minute and think or say out loud the following phrase: "I give myself permission to stop thinking about *this* while I’m meditating". I say it as many times as I need (maybe 10 or so) and then try again. Hope this is helpful.
It’s completely natural to worry about your partner and have them in your thoughts. Meditation is not about stopping your thoughts. Practice letting your thoughts flow into your head and then gently let them go. If you are having intrusive thoughts about negative things, ask yourself "what if that doesn’t happen?" Letting things pass through your mind is there most important part, not being empty. The emptiness comes, but even Buddhist monks have thoughts come during meditation.
Yo try to go back and focus on your breath. Bring it back to the core everytime your mind wanders, no judgment, don’t be hard on yourself, just observe how you are feeling and try to go back to the breath
Promise yourself you’ll address any worries you have after your meditation time. Maybe even write your worries down before meditation so your mind doesn’t think it needs to hold onto the information.
Your meditation is time for you to ground yourself. It is a misconception that in meditation we should clear our minds of any thoughts and this perception makes people give up. However I believe in the benefit of holding your feelings with gentleness, allowing them to be, without judgement, as good or bad, identify the area of the body where you might hold tension related to that issue, it can be in the chest area or neck, and breathe into that area. By returning to the practice every day you will get better at being present and calming down worries.
I’ve only just begun to practice meditation and mindfulness so my mind definitely does get of focus and for me what has worked to keep me in the moment and focusing on myself and no one else to count my breaths to ten and then repeat until my mind is clear of thoughts to where I can continue to be in the present
I try by all means not to think about them and what they are up to. I wait on them to call. That way i see if they love and value me
Having your mind wonder while meditating is normal, especially when thinking about your loved ones. I’m in this situation too and this is how I try to keep my mind away from wandering while meditating: At the beginning of each session I’m telling myself that I’ll take a bit of time from the day to focus on myself so that I can spend a few minutes at the end letting my mind wander. This way if I’m worrying about something I’ll be able to see the problem much more clear after the meditation.
I personally don’t think long distance relationships are worth the stress unless there are no other options. If it’s too much stress, it might be best to just move on, unfortunately.
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