Tinashe A.
If you can set up a rewarding system that could motivate the rest to complete their chores, however since people are different, start small by engaging them into completing smaller chores for smaller rewards.
Jimmy U.
Could you maybe offer a treat afterwards, such as fruit, cake or a hot chocolate for completing chores/tidying up tasks.
Salina F.
Straight talk about expectations and sharing burdens with your partner to start with – the two of you need to be on the same page before approaching the children. Get counseling if needed. Consider a ‘work hard/play hard approach’ – where the whole family tackles chores/projects together, then enjoys recreational tune together. It’s more fun when you earn it, and the kids often come to enjoy the project time as much or more than the official recreational time, since projects together involve interacting and feel meaningful. If the kids are involved in cleaning up/improvement projects, they’ll also value and take care of the space more and appreciate the parental effort involved. Also consider coupling monotonous activities with enjoyable ones – a classic is watching tv/a movie while folding laundry, or playing music while cleaning. Also consider dividing and conquering (works best with partner/older children) – ask one of the others “can you do this, while I do that?” Or making a list together and collectively divvying up the tasks. Play to each person’s strengths/interests – my partner is great about dishes and washing laundry, and scrubbing the toilet, but not about washing counters, sweeping/dusting, or cleaning the rest of the bathroom, so I focus on those, knowing my partner will notice and take action themselves on the other items if I leave them. None of us loves folding laundry, so we do it together Sunday evenings while watching a movie or episodes (it helps to keep one series just for ‘folding parties’ ;-). Celebrate when you’re done, notice and enjoy how nice it feels/looks when things are tidy. Also, let go of everything always being a certain way – insisting on it being done your way is a recipe for always having to do it yourself (no one else loads the dishwasher or folds the laundry exactly how I like it, but I’ll take them doing it their way over having to it all myself!!). Hope this helps!
Izzie G.
You can slowly introduce the chores. Ask for help and then slowly as the get better have them do it on their own. You can also make a chart to help evenly split them up. Lastly you can have a reward to fit the persons personality if they do it.
Brielle R.
Be gentle and honest with your emotions towards your family. Express how it affects your family dynamic causing you to stress. Let your voice be heard.
Amanda N.
They making a rewards chart for each family member with certain chores pertaining to each person, including adults and a reward system.
