Don’t go against the universe. Realize that the universe wants to be one with you. Trick is, the universe is always going to get its way. So it is up to you to get with the program that the universe has set out for you. You find your place when you find your individuality. You feel secure in your place when you know that the universe is here to protect you.
Think of all the things that make your heart warm. Concentrate on the feeling that brings your warmth. Is it a flower rising from the concrete?