As with everything there is a balance. There comes a point where you need to put yourself first and give yourself time so that you won’t feel burnt out. I know it’s not always that simple but if you crack/burn out you would in anyways not be able to support the people that are dependent on you🌼
simply try telling them that you are working on your health and that requires you to go to bed and stay off your phone. you could even tell them that you don’t have the mental capacity to take on their stresses at night:)
I can not . Sometimes I pretend like I will be there if you wanted me just try to give a small ring and I will wake up . It works sometimes but not everytime Any way I started to hate this type of relations I need more felixable one
It’s actually an easy one, if you will disconnect and let that person know why then most likely they would also want to try to disconnect as their way of relieving stress.
I had this problem with my best friend. I’m her rock and I made a deal with hear that I can have at least ten minutes to myself every night.
I am having this too much. I have friends that uses me as their stress relief. I have always messages from them. And this is how i fight with it , i dont look messages and i dont open the phones from them. Because i should think myself too. And when they ask me like why dont you talk i say i had work i am sorry . And when i want to talk with them i just talk them and then i unplug. Because sometimes unplugging and put away your phone is more relaxing than play with it . My rules are so easy . I hope this works for somebody else
Some times we got to be a little selfish and truly take care of our selfs. Because sleep is really important I am not going to miss it because of some one or some thing.
It’s easy for me to give to other people, in fact I excel at it so much that I violate my own boundaries, I put myself second and push people away.... so ya people don’t rely on me right now
Just be honest with them. You cant be the “stress reliever ” if your mind is not at ease. Always put your self as the top priority, if you are not feeling good then it’s ok to say no.
Because if my if people rely on me as part of their stress relief they text me about 2 hours before bed so that I can unplug later
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