The best way to overcome something is to face it! Especially if it is something that is causing anxiety because it is probably due to a fear of failure. In this case, understand that as long as you are trying and learning through the trials and errors, you are never failing, just gaining knowledge and tips to prepare you for the next try.
- How do you stay discipline while being self employed?
- How can I be completely focused and motivated and make the effort to change?
- How do I eliminate distractions?
- How do I grapple with being under-staffed, unable to accomplish all of my goals and my full-time supervisor regularly arriving an hour late and leaving an hour early? Live and let live and take care of my team and trust someone will notice and take action or trust that there is a legitimate reason for boss’ absences? Or something else?
- Do you find it easy to interweave your rituals in to the rest of your everyday family life?
I get what you’re talking about with anxiety getting in the way. For me, having something visual helps. I like to make really clear, simple lists that make it easy for me to pick up somewhere. Sometimes it can also be something physical like a reward you give yourself for achieving something. This can be as small as a sticker or a pat on the back.
It depends on where your anxiety is coming from, but to just get started on something, I try to set really REALLY easy goals that I know I can achieve, and then if I have a visual reminder that I can do it, it’s more likely that I will.
Break it down further. Even if it becomes micro tasks! Regardless of how minor it may be after completing deconstructing the larger task, you are still working on that larger task.
Unfortunately I struggle with the same issue. I find myself procrastinating due to fear, and take on tasks I know I can accomplish. I’ve found the best way for me to combat this behavior is acknowledging it. I tell myself “I am avoiding _________ because I’m scared of _________(e.g failing, not being good at it, feeling like I’m stupid, letting myself down, feeling like I don’t have what it takes to succeed, etc), which is so silly! There’s nothing to be afraid of/ intimidated by, I can do this!” After a pump up talk, I usually laugh at how I was scared of a simple little thing. And, what is there to even be afraid of? I already don’t know the task (in my case, graduate school statistics), so worse case scenario, I know a tiny bit more than when I woke up this morning! This practice seems ridiculous, but verbal self-validation has worked so well for me in a variety of ways and can help relieve the anxiety you feel from fear.
Congratulations for your courage. Recognize anxiety is temporary and it won’t kill you. You can walk mindfully through the situation to achieve that which means so much to you. Reward yourself for each step. Make self care your priority, making sure yoga and/or meditation is always given appropriate priority, including the breathe. Use visualization, positive thoughts and believe in yourself. The same courage that led you to where you are will get you to where you want to be. Best wishes.
Nothing worth having in life comes easy. There’s times in our life when we will have to take a leap. Live life and take risk, especially when it’s for the better.
- What do you do to avoid distractions?
- Is it optimal to break up deep work periods? I understood that people don’t tend to work optimally after about a 45-minute period?
- How you can do deep work?
- What’s the best way to balance food, activities and workouts?
- How do you learn to trust yourself and trust others?
- How do I wake up early in the morning every day?
- I would like to know if you have a boss and he is really in a bad mood, how do you handle this?
- Whenever I take a break, I lose track of what my plan was and I get totally lost in shallow activities. How can I deal with this?
- What advantage do you get from deep work?
- How do you find the best time of day to do deep work?