It’s normal to feel that way, especially after experiencing a traumatic life event like divorce or death in the family, or being stuck in the same condition for a while, such as working on the same job for years.
But you couldn’t see that “something” that makes waking up in the morning worthwhile.
Perhaps you had a purpose to be happily married, but then you were divorced.
So you felt like you’ve lost that purpose.
Perhaps you had a purpose to be the best in the workplace, but apparently you weren’t chosen for the promotion.
So you felt like you’ve lost that purpose.
You didn’t realize that those (being happily married and getting a job promotion) aren’t life purposes, as your existence isn’t defined by them.
They, undoubtedly, are parts of your existence that contribute to valuable learning lessons in life.
You grow as a person when experiencing the happier and the darker sides of life, which is something to be grateful for.
The thing with discovering your purpose is that it’s not as simple as reading a book and finishing it.
It’s not even as straightforward as going to school and obtaining a degree in psychology, humanities, business, engineering, medicine, or math.
It’s not that simple and that straightforward because discovering your purpose isn’t a linear effort.
Why Discovering Your Purpose Is Not Easy
Discovering your purpose is an on-going process and it depends solely on yourself.
You’ll go through good and bad periods when looking for it.
Some days, you’d feel good that your life is purposeful; but on other days, you’d feel that you’re lost.
Acknowledge both with an “observing mind“.
Either way, it’s just what you feel.
Your existence doesn’t depend on whether you feel that you have or have no purpose.
In Zen Buddhism, there are two types of minds: the thinking mind and the observing mind.
When you’re thinking about anything, you’re using the “thinking mind.”
However, when you’re observing how you think, you’re using the “observing mind.”
It could be a hobby, a sport, a job, or anything really.