How do I do tasks that I really hate and I usually end up avoiding and delaying to finish?

Rosl F.
Go on Fabulous! They have tasks you can do. And when you press Fabulous moment then it won’t let you get off the task. The only thing you can do is snooze it. But it’s very hard to do that for me because I love Fabulous so much, it makes everything I do worth doing. And they even give you little tips on how and why you should do some of those things.
Armandino Q.
Consistency and grace. It’s true that practice makes perfect. You have to at least try and attempt the task once. Even if you chip away very little on the task, at least it’s a start. Build up from that and keep going.
I also say grace, because sometimes we criticize ourselves harshly. With a negative mindset, of course it’s going to prevent us from finishing. Be positive and grateful that you are trying and moving forward completing the task. There will be setbacks; it’s fine. But keep moving forward.
Marian J.
Always try and to start out with the most challenging task of the day. Completing or progressing with this task will give you a sense of great accomplishment and drive you towards solving the next one.
Rubim F.
I’m a believer in lists, I like to check things off too. Break a task into smaller segments. If you need to clean out a closet for example set a timer and work for 10 minutes. Reward yourself with a positive saying or 10 minutes of something you like to do. Keep doing it in these segments and it will get done.
Ac Cio P.
I am a really bad person to ask. I usually find myself doing this too. What I do is I force myself to do the task and then halfway through out the task I find myself to hate it more I take a break (no phones) I meditate, I read short poems, I take a short walk, but I do things that distract me but make me more happy about the task that makes me feel bored and frustrated. And when I get back to the task i feel more happy.
Julian P.
Make it a compulsory habit.
Just like you brush your teeth in the morning without liking the act and also without realising that you put in efforts to do it daily.
Nicole F.
Time youself! When I realized I spent more time suffering about washing dishes than the time it took me to do it I decided it wasn't worth it!
Chiara O.
I found that using the pomodoro technique is extremely helpful with getting myself to start tasks that I am procrastinating. Essentially what you do is set a 25 minute timer, and for that time you focus on the task at hand. Most times starting a task is hard because it feels like what we need to do can seem really difficult or impossible, but by setting a timer and telling yourself that "hey, I only need to work for 25 minutes" it makes it easier to get started. For me, once I get started, the timer almost doesn't matter anymore and I just keep working past it until the task is finished. Setting the timer then ends up being just enough to convince my brain to get started. And even if you don't finish the task you will have gotten more done in the 25 minutes than had you not started at all.
Tiffany Q.
Try to associate something you love with the tasks you hate. For example, listen to your favourite songs when doing the dishes or exercising! Or a little reward every time you’ve completed a task you hate.
Lea X.
The key is associating those tasks with good feelings. Think about how hard it is to them and how strong you are when you do them. They are difficult only because you are associating very negative emotions to them, but this can be changed!
Brunhilde U.
I schedule the tasks either through a habit or by putting the tasks on my calendar with a reminder and some details (like a phone number or store address). If I miss doing the task I try not to be hard on myself but just reschedule it either for the next days routine or a reminder on another free date/time.
Terry I.
I have 2 ways:
1. I try to find the positive side of the task, or
2. I slightly change the task according to my personal life
Clemens N.
In my experience, doing the thing you hate first before the other things you like to do, may help. Because you don't like it, you know you're going to have to convince yourself, now or later to do it. How about waking up and commiting to completing it first and rewarding yourself at the end as motivation with the tasks you do like. I am still working on this, but it has worked for me in the past!
Rafael F.
I think with me because I have procrastination issues I find the ones I hate either get left out and don’t get done or they’re half done and I have done a crappy job on them.
Taciano S.
Break up the task into smaller, 10 minute tasks, and do them one at a time. Also, listening music usually helps me power through tedious tasks.
Marlene C.
Make sure to have a bunch of rewards for whenever you complete something you hate. That way you will look forward to finishing those tasks instead of trying to avoid them. Some reward could include a piece of chocolate or candy, or watching your favorite tv show.
Samara I.
For me, it’s really helping to focus on how my partner will share in my self-satisfaction of conquering the annoying tasks. 🙂
Genoveva S.
Well, just start by doing something easy. For example, maybe you fall behind on your laundry sometimes. You could start doing your laundry once every 5-7 days. Start easy and continue to start doing small things as the thing you were working on become second nature.
Josephine W.
I have started using the Eisenhower matrix; you can find it by googling it. It breaks tasks based on urgency and importance. Those two are not always aligned. I tackle the do first stuff even if I don't want by committing to 25 minutes. Then I continue if I'm in the flow or do something else for 25 minutes if I'm not. I go back and forth until the stuff I don't like is done.
Hugo Y.
I start by putting my favourite music on and blasting it to get me in a good and motivated mood then do little tasks that are quick and easy then I do the task that I have been putting off and in the end it makes me feel better that I finally did it and now I don’t have to worry about it
Camila C.
Put as many things in place prior so the next morning you're ready to get started.
I avoided exercise like the plague, I hated the thought of it. So instead of leaps and bounds I committed to teeny weeny baby steps.
My preparation was to sleep in exercise gear. I then wrote down 7 easy to do exercises that if I had to I could just about do them without opening my eyes. It works cos exercise is the first thing I want to do in the morning.
Sandor R.
Depends. If it’s a habit you really want to implement that you see or feel the benefits of, then I suggest finding some people to hold you to it. If you could do it on your own, it would already be done. Another way on top of that is to look at the goal and find a different way to reach it. For example, if you want to exercise, find something that you actually enjoy doing that works for you. No sense in trying to force yourself and hating every minute of it.
Lastly, if the goal doesn’t matter to you, don’t do it. You’ll just get frustrated.
Laur Nio S.
I like to do something I do enjoy doing in order to motivate me to finish. I call a friend, put on a podcast, turn on music, or sometimes treat myself to a show in order to motivate myself to complete something I don’t enjoy. This helps me especially when I’m really tired.
Francisco F.
Come up with a celebration routine for yourself. Reward yourself with something once you're done with a task you hate. A candy, an episode of tv-series or some time playing videogames.
Jeanne N.
The body has a limited supply of willpower. As the day goes on this supply is diminished so putting the most important tasks first will give you the best chance of getting them done. Also the harder the task the greater the feeling of relief and satisfaction once completed!
I don't know what task it is you hate so much but you should also consider the importance of the task and the reasons why it has to be done.
Thea Z.
Turn on some music that works for the task. Cleaning? Upbeat happy songs you can dance to. Homework? Play some Hans Zimmerman.
Lucas B.
I would do those first. Get them out of the way and save the ones you like for last because it's easy to do stuff you like to do.
Julia U.
Just start doing those thing anyway, but for short periods.For exaple 8 minutes of excersing, 5 minutes of meditation.The point is not to brake the chain and to do this every day.
Chloe E.
I am struggling with that myself. I just tell myself that if I get it over with as soon as possible, then the rest of my day is fun, but as long as it's not finished, I will be stressed about it. And after you're done with it, you can reward yourself by doing a productive activity that you enjoy.
Rasmus X.
Set a timer for 15 minutes. You can do anything for 15 minutes. When the 15 minutes is up, give yourself a quick (i.e. 5-10 minute) break and then either come back and do another 15 minute session or give yourself permission to move on to another task. Then repeat later in the day or the following day. It's amazing what you can accomplish in that small chunk of time. Many times, you'll discover the task you were dreading didn't take as long as you thought it would! Best of luck!
Cathleen X.
I used to struggle with the same issue and sometimes still do. I made it one of my performance statements that "when I have little appetite to do something, I just simply start doing it and then it just keeps going on by itself!" once you get started, any task is less boring and less frightening and less miserable than it feels like before you start
Micheal F.
do that task first when u do it first all your frustration will be gone and u will do all remaining task with a flow just give it a try and if u wanna try it give a big smile as a promise to yourself that u will do it .it will act as an alarm.GOOD LUCK
Tino U.
I usually try to do the worst first, then do the others as almost a reward. Just jump on them and then you won't have to worry or feel guilty about putting them off
Christian A.
Make a specific time to do it, like taking a prescription medication. It is more effective if taken the same time daily.
Nathana L Q.
For me, once I start something, I can’t make myself just stop. For example, once I start a workout, I motivate myself to finish all of it. Even though something might not be the most exciting thing to do, it’s all about having the right mindset and telling yourself your going to regret not doing it afterwards, and wouldn’t have any regrets after doing it. Because In the end, im sure it will only benefit you 🙂
Alizee Z.
Think that the challenge is to do something even if you ”hate” that, without it the challenge is not a challenge anymore lol
Am Lie T.
Do that task even if you hate it. Focus on your future goals, and what is going to happen if you do tasks that you even hate.
Nadine U.
I say, put the task that you hate first, make it a priority. And don't allow yourself to hesitate, as soon as the time for it comes , just do it. Maybe listen to something , music or a audiobook, and don't just do the minimal, give a 120%
Sohan Z.
Make a game out of it, put on music that you like and if you have kids do a race to see who gets their task done first. That way your doing the task you don't like and teaching them responsibility
Mariola Q.
For me it helps to use the just start deep work timer, or anotheror timer app. Trying to do the task ace quick as possible also helps. In general gamification techniques help me to get those things done.
Ahmad R.
I determine what time of day I am most productive. Whenever that time is, I plan to attack that unpleasant task. That is the best way I do it.
Naja W.
Eat the frog. There is a book called eat the frog which proposes that you do the most hateful job first so that it’s out of the way and you can enjoy your day. You can do things to make it better, like listen to music while doing it or reward yourself with a cup of coffee and a biscuit once you are done.
Ioque F.
This is basically the hardest thing for me to answer because I struggle with it too! With exercising I really just have to tell myself how much better I will feel once I do it.
Claire Z.
I pick one (only one!) and do it first thing and the start of my working day. It really makes my day, knowing I'm over it and don't have to carry it in the back of my mind anymore…
Abssil O N.
To be honest there's really no magic way around it. You can keep on telling yourself all the motivating words you can but nothing will happen until you actually do it. Just start the task piece by piece, don't think of it as one big overwhelming activity. Eventually, it will feel like a part of your daily routine like brushing your teeth.
Johan E.
Just be present with whatever you're doing. If it's something like doing dishes, try putting some music on. And ultimately you're taking care of your stuff so it shouldn't be something you hate.
Harvey F.
It usually depends on the task. But in anycase you have to force yourself to finish it as soon as possible. Turn off the wifi as well as your device. Avoid working near anything that can distract you. The sooner you are done with the task the more time you have to do things you really enjoy. A very effective solution would be to set a specific amount of time you want to spend on the task. Set an alarm. The goal is to have finished before your alarm goes off. Don't think that you are close to success because if you do you'll feel like you have time to waste since your almost over. If you simply can't get yourself to work on the task and you are thinking about doing it at some point then at this moment try to stay still. Don't do anything and count until 20. After that convince yourself that you will feel much better and will much more time to do anything else.
Hans Uwe F.
That's a tough habit to break. This habit, for me, used to be because of my anxiety and funny enough delaying projects made me even more anxious! It was a terrible cycle that I'm only able to break with a lot of motivation and a game plan. Write the game plan a day before, so you can make time for potential delays. We aren't perfect after all, just trying to be better than we were yesterday.
Roselaine I.
Do a little at a time. Review why you're doing it and the big picture. Sometimes I don't like waking up and exercising but after it's done it feels great and I know I need it for my overall health. Good luck!
Alex T.
Do it first. Out of all the tasks you have to do make it your first one so it's over the quickest. With this you see it as every task after that requires no energy except dedication, which we do with a smile.
Natal Cio Q.
Treat it as an experiment which allows you to explore the kind of experience which you might after or never get the chance to try. Let go of the thinking – success or failure, no judgement, just an experiment!
Jade A.
I like to think of things as necessary or unnecessary and helpful or unhelpful. Then I reframe it in a positive way to feel motivation to do it if I decide I wish to, and go about it in the most strategic way I can. I also do it first because putting things off only increases the anxiety I feel around it.
Irmtraut J.
Chop it into pieces! The first thing may be hardest – to know where to start.
Some times I just start with "put something on the table/out of the box/in front of you". That is really easy.
One part may be "check if/how many…" or "google how to…"
Often, with new things, I start with checking the manual for how many pages there are in my language. And rip out the rest! A very thick "book" often turns out to be only a few pages.
Ashley P.
Two things: A reward and a reason. First, look at the purpose of the task: What is the benefit to be gained from it? Secondly, devise a reward for yourself for completing the task. Be specific about both the task and the reward, rather than simply "I'll treat myself once I've finished this task"; How will you treat yourself? What constitutes "finished"? These are important because a) You won't do half a job, and b) You have something specific to look forward to!
If the problem is also procrastination, break the task down and start straight away with a small step, and then reward yourself for that.
Barb F.
Try to break the task into small chunks, then choose to do one thing, no matter how small. Often, once something is started, it is almost easier to continue, but even if it isn't, you've still done more, no matter how small. Rinse and repeat. 🙂
Caroline Q.
Try to do something to motivate yourself! Like listen to motivating music while, exercising, studying or whatever it is that you don't what to do! Just try to make it easier on yourself and it'll hopefully get easier for you!
Morgan Q.
I would adapt my task and integrate it into something I am already doing, that make the task easier to do. like I hate exercising, so every day instead of taking a train to work, I cycle there. Or if I can skip around to the living room instead of walking to start my day.
Hope this works for you!
Dawn J.
Watch that shia lebouf video "JUST DO IT" will be hard at first but it is all about getting things started, think of the long term results. Best of luck fr Nepal !
S L Ne F.
Per Marla Cilley, the FlyLady, ”You can do anything for 15 minutes.” Select a task within a chore you've been avoiding that you believe will take 15 minutes. Do that task, with music you enjoy or something else to create a pleasant environment. When the timer goes off, take a few seconds to look at the dent you made in the task. Then, decide whether maybe you want to do another 15 minutes!
Rosmarie F.
Overcoming my own resistance is a daily battle. If I begin with the end in mind, and get the worst tasks over with, my dread vanishes.