{"id":22095,"date":"2020-04-08T10:07:35","date_gmt":"2020-04-08T10:07:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thefabulous.co\/qa\/how-are-you-able-to-unplug-and-disconnect-if-others-rely-on-you-as-part-of-their-stress-relief\/"},"modified":"2022-12-19T15:54:00","modified_gmt":"2022-12-19T15:54:00","slug":"how-are-you-able-to-unplug-and-disconnect-if-others-rely-on-you-as-part-of-their-stress-relief","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thefabulous.co\/qa\/how-are-you-able-to-unplug-and-disconnect-if-others-rely-on-you-as-part-of-their-stress-relief\/","title":{"rendered":"How are you able to unplug and disconnect if others rely on you as part of their stress relief?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Victor B.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">As with everything there is a balance. There comes a point where you need to put yourself first and give yourself time so that you won\u2019t  feel burnt out. I know it\u2019s not always that simple but if you crack&#x2F;burn out you would in anyways not be able to support the people that are dependent on you\ud83c\udf3c<\/div>\n<\/div><div class=\"thefa-test2 thefa-entity-placement\" id=\"thefa-665183098\"><div id=\"thefa-1396127153\"><style>.thefa-test2 {margin-bottom: 24px;}<\/style>\r\n<div class=\"banner-content-position light-viol\">\r\n<div class=\"banner-text max400\">Don't let a good life slip away<\/div>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/start.thefabulous.co\/onboarding\/fabulous-initial?utm_source=community-qa&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=afterfirstquestionoranswer-purple-achievegoals\" class=\"banner-cta red w-inline-block\">\r\n<div>Start today<\/div><\/a>\r\n<\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Kiley N.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">simply try telling them that you are working on your health and that requires you to go to bed and stay off your phone. you could even tell them that you don\u2019t have the mental capacity to take on their stresses at night:)<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Mariam Z.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I can not . Sometimes I pretend like I will be there if you wanted me just try to give a small ring and I will wake up . It works sometimes but not everytime<br \/>\nAny way I started to hate this type of relations I need more felixable one<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Barb O.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">It&#39;s actually an easy one, if you will disconnect and let that person know why then most likely they would also want to try to disconnect as their way of relieving stress.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Mehmet Q.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I had this problem with my best friend. I\u2019m her rock and I made a deal with hear that I can have at least ten minutes to myself every night.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Nic Sio N.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I am having this too much. I have friends that uses me as their stress relief. I have always messages from them. And this is how i fight with it , i dont look messages and i dont open the phones from them. Because i should think myself too. And when they ask me like why dont you talk i say i had work i am sorry . And when i want to talk with them i just talk them and then i unplug. Because sometimes unplugging and put away your phone is more relaxing than play with it . My rules are so easy . I hope this works for somebody else<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Nelson S.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Some times we got to be a little selfish and truly take care of our selfs. Because sleep is really important I am not going to miss it because of some one or some thing.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Willard F.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">It\u2019s easy for me to give to other people, in fact I excel at it so much that I violate my own boundaries, I put myself second and push people away&#8230;. so ya people don\u2019t rely on me right now<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Mimi U.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Just be honest with them. You cant be the \u201cstress reliever \u201d if your mind is not at ease. Always put your self as the top priority, if you are not feeling good then it\u2019s ok to say no.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Silke W.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Because if my if people rely on me as part of their stress relief they text me about 2 hours before bed so that I can unplug later<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Tomothy C.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I have no idea sometimes I just use it as not going on social media or going to bed earlier my family is used to me using this app so if I say I\u2019m doing my night routine then they know not to bother me try telling them that I hope this helps<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Fernando U.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I answer them and help them as quickly and efficiently as possible and ask them 30 minutes before hand if they need to speak about anything.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Kiara Z.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">i think both are rather incompatible, or the best you can is calling or texting your friends 1 hour or 2 per day. I recommend putting you in airplane mode as much as possible, or in do not disturb mode.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Gidel B.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">It\u2019s hard with this app, and the only way to talk to other about it is through the phone, but setting a timer helps a lot.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Jeremiah Z.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">There needs to be a line where you need to stop helping your friend. At a point this becomes unhealthy and can sacrifice your own mental health. Also if you aren\u2019t able to help someone while you are asleep then you are allowed not help someone when you are about to go to sleep.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Olly Z.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I take time do the things i enjoy by myself. Going walking along the canals or even out up past the college gives me a chance to take stock. That and playing guitar for an hour or so where i can just get lost in the music and not worry about the world around me<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Letitia F.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I don\u2019t believe that you can fully be there for others if you are not their for yourself first. By ridding yourself of all distractions, you can take time for yourself to reflect on what things have a good on you and how you can let those things go. Doing this allows a more clear and opened mind, which enables you to better help others!<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Rojda O.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Well, I just feel that I have to reset myself to be able to be helpful everyone around me. First I help to myself. Therefore, since I met with fabulous app, I just switch off my phone (which is quite hard these days) I am putting myself away from everything that connecting me to the world. I put some candle, read, chat with family or playing with my dog. This is helping me to see what is around me, which moment I am in.<br \/>\nLove,<br \/>\nR<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Shabi N.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">It is very important to set healthy boundaries. If others relying on you makes it difficult for you to relax, you should set a boundary. You are allowed to take care of yourself. Let these people know that past a certain hour you will not be available for them.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Victor B. As with everything there is a balance. There comes a point where you need to put yourself first and give yourself time so that you won\u2019t feel burnt out. I know it\u2019s not always that simple but if you crack&#x2F;burn out you would in anyways not be able to support the people that are dependent on you\ud83c\udf3c Kiley N. simply try telling them&#8230; <\/p>\n<p class=\"more\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thefabulous.co\/qa\/how-are-you-able-to-unplug-and-disconnect-if-others-rely-on-you-as-part-of-their-stress-relief\/\">Read More<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[9961],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>How are you able to unplug and disconnect if others rely on you as part of their stress relief? | Fabulous Community<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"How are you able to unplug and disconnect if others rely on you as part of their stress relief? 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