{"id":17387,"date":"2019-10-31T09:51:11","date_gmt":"2019-10-31T09:51:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thefabulous.co\/qa\/how-do-you-deal-with-anger\/"},"modified":"2022-12-19T15:41:42","modified_gmt":"2022-12-19T15:41:42","slug":"how-do-you-deal-with-anger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thefabulous.co\/qa\/how-do-you-deal-with-anger\/","title":{"rendered":"How do you deal with anger?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Anita X.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Generally really poorly.  The best thing that I can do is remind myself to be rational and not emotional and write down my frustrations so I can address them when I\u2019m not as upset. If I just let things go it becomes worse.<\/div>\n<\/div><div class=\"thefa-test2 thefa-entity-placement\" id=\"thefa-1994903494\"><div id=\"thefa-2155632469\"><style>.thefa-test2 {margin-bottom: 24px;}<\/style>\r\n<div class=\"banner-content-position light-viol\">\r\n<div class=\"banner-text max400\">Stop procrastinating. It's time to take charge of your life.<\/div>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/start.thefabulous.co\/onboarding\/fabulous-initial?utm_source=community-qa&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=afterfirstquestionoranswer-purple-achievegoals\" class=\"banner-cta red w-inline-block\">\r\n<div>Start today<\/div><\/a>\r\n<\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Tina E.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I need a release. I\u2019ve been working myself away from things like eating to feel better to moving my body like going for a walk or writing my thoughts down or doing a short mind clearing exercise. If I have time to deal with it I seek alone time to process in my journal. Writing it down gets it out of a swirling mind and gives you another perspective.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Nathielle W.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Step back, think it through from other sides and intent, heart. Pray over it and then talk with the person&#x2F;s honestly. Anger has not been a huge issue in my life for which I\u2019m very thankful and that\u2019s pretty much how I\u2019ve most often handled it.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Ma Lie E.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I look for what is causing my anger. It seems to mostly be a secondary emotion and finding the primary emotion may lead to a solution or help us gain acceptance.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Hermann W.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Step away from the source. Take your anger to an isolated area, preferably alone and private.<\/p>\n<p>Let all the emotions out and then take note of what comes out. Write it down in your notes app or notebook.<\/p>\n<p>Then keep think about how you can manage this differently. Think about why you cared more about it and how that\u2019s different to now.<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Nicklas Z.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Oh man, I\u2019m working on this right now. I\u2019ve got a long way to go, but here are some things I\u2019ve been doing  lately that really help. <\/p>\n<p>First, I remind myself to observe the emotion. Not to resist it, let myself feel it without attaching to it, and let it flow through. If I\u2019m not resisting but it still won\u2019t pass, then I sit with it and ask, What is this anger trying to tell me? Usually there isn\u2019t an answer. Just making space for the question is enough. But when an answer does come &#8230; \ud83e\udd2f.<\/p>\n<p>Second, gratitude journaling really helps. I had an executive meeting one Monday morning, and I walked out so angry, it stayed with me all day. When I journaled that night, I forced myself to write about why I was thankful to have felt that anger all day. And holy cow, it shifted my entire perspective on my situation and my responsibility for it, and how I could change it. <\/p>\n<p>Third (and this relates back to the first point), I stopped judging my anger. The more I make friends with my dark side, shadow self, or whatever you prefer to call it, the more whole I feel. And the more I do that, the more I realize my anger is more often than not a messenger.<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Mark Z.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">I get busy and once I feel exhausted physically I sit with my thoughts<br \/>\n Often it helps to write my thoughts and rereading it shows some irrational or incorrect perspective that I alter<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Lya E.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Taking a few deep breaths and writing a letter in response to what triggered your anger to yourself, then revisiting the situation when you are calm.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Allie Y.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Mindfulness is my ideal route, and when I succeed with this it usually works out for the best; if I notice how angry I am, then I can begin to question the origin&#x2F;reasoning behind it and challenge its validity.  A lot of times I\u2019ll realize I didn\u2019t have a good reason to be angry and (important step) forgive myself for feeling that way anyways.  Then I can chose the most productive thing to do next starting with the question \u201chow can I make things better given the current situation?\u201d<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"single-answer\">\n<div class=\"who-answered\">Tristan E.<\/div>\n<div class=\"detailed-answer\">Analysing exactly what I\u2019m angry about: is it injustice to me or others, someone being mean to someone I love, me mistaking the other person and seeing it through my own lens.<\/p>\n<p>If I am angry and I feel it\u2019s justified, I\u2019ll go outside. It\u2019s important to have air. I\u2019ll take deep breaths<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Anita X. Generally really poorly. 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